It's good for your baby when their parents get on well. Even very young children feel it when their mum and dad get on well and are in this together. Showing that you appreciate your partner not only strengthens your relationship, but helps the baby feel secure and safe. And that's important for their developing brain.
If you have disagreements (everyone does), or even if you are not together with your partner, it's important that both of you talk to and treat each other with respect.
One way of showing your affection for your partner are random acts of kindness. Being kind to your partner can make you feel good, too. Being kind might mean:
Telling your partner that they are doing a good job
Telling your partner what you appreciate and admire about them
Noticing and congratulating them on what they are doing well
Arranging little ways that you can have fun together
Inexpensive gifts or treats fir her can make your partner feel appreciated
Being kind to your partner is important for the whole family. Having a positive relationship with your partner is not just about the two of you, it’s good for your baby, no matter how young they are. Your relationship is a very big part of your baby’s environment. A New Zealand study found that if the parents felt warmth for each other, their children were unlikely to suffer the developmental effects of serious trauma during their childhood. Maintaining as positive as possible atmosphere at home is one way of giving your baby what they need to thrive.
Talking things through
Things that weren’t important in the past might become points of conflict. The way you get through all of this is by talking things through - and compromising when you need to. Keeping silent can lead to one or both of you feeling resentful. Talk together.
"Women can’t hear what men don’t say" – Warren Farrell
Communicating is as much about listening as it is about talking. Hearing what is going on for her is important. Explaining what’s going on for you is important. This is not arguing or about scoring points. It’s about understanding how things are for each of you. If you are communicating well, it helps you be on the same page. It can help close any gap that may open up if either or both of you has too much to do and you are overworked.
Couples strengthen their relationship by listening to each other. New parents’ lives are constantly changing and talking things through as you go will help you make the adjustments you need to make.